If your child has been more distracted than usual, snapping back, refusing homework, or losing interest in things they once loved, you’re not the only one seeing this shift.

A recent survey by the Central Board of Secondary Education (CBSE) found that approximately 40% of parents reported struggling with their child’s behaviour and academics. That number is big, but honestly, it doesn’t surprise most parents anymore.

Because parenting today feels heavier than it used to, the world has changed, and so have our children.

The Real Reasons Behind It

There isn’t one neat answer. What’s happening is a mix of small, everyday factors piling up until both children and parents start feeling it.

• Post-pandemic ripple effect: Two years of online classes changed how children learn, focus, and socialise. Many are still finding their rhythm again.

• Screens everywhere: From YouTube to short videos, there’s instant entertainment at every corner. It’s easy stimulation, and real-world patience naturally goes down.

• Academic pressure: Schools are catching up on what was missed. Expectations are high, and children are expected to bounce back without the time they actually need.

• Parents under pressure too: Work, finances, household responsibilities, and constant multitasking mean less energy to stay calm and consistent, and children sense that.

• Emotional overwhelm: Sometimes what we call “bad behaviour” is just tiredness, boredom, or an emotion a child doesn’t yet know how to name.

What Can We Do About It

There’s no magic trick, but a few small changes at home can make a big difference.

•  When your child throws a tantrum, try to pause. Ask what’s bothering them, even if they can’t answer straight away. Listening often works better than lecturing.

•  Predictability gives children a sense of control. Fixed reading time, family dinner, bedtime stories—these small anchors reduce anxiety.

• Stories have a quiet power. They help children recognise emotions and learn empathy without being “taught.” Books about feelings, friendship, and kindness go a long way in shaping behaviour gently.

• When things get rough, a hug works better than a harsh word. Children behave better when they feel seen and understood.

Parenting in today’s world is more challenging than it was in the past. You’re trying your best, and that counts for more than you think. We often talk about raising emotionally strong kids. But the truth is, it begins with emotionally aware parents.

Your child doesn’t need perfection. They need presence.
They need you to be calm, curious, and willing to start again after a rough day. Behaviour and academics will improve—they always do—when a child feels safe, heard, and connected.

Words by Ripal Abhay Dixit